A while back my friend Katzi tagged me to answer a few questions on the topic of "self-care", and although it is something quite different from what I normally write on this blog, I thought it was a really interesting tag and accepted the challenge!
1. What piece of advice would you give a child about to grow up with the pressures of today’s media and its crushing expectations?
I'm not the best at giving advice, just like I'm not the best at following them. As much as I don't like admitting it, I'm sort of vulnerable to media's pressure and whatever I could say to answer this question, would probably make me feel a little hypocritical :/
2. What song puts you in a good mood every time?
- Can't Hold Us, and Thrift Shop by Macklemore because I love to badly rap to them.
- Dancing Shoes by Arctic Monkeys
3. What is the best advice someone gave you or you realized about life?
The first thing that came to mind reading this question, is more of a quote rather than an advice, and it also happen to be one of my tattoos.
We die every day.
It is a quote by Latin author Seneca, from a letter to a friend, in which he tells him not be afraid of death because if you think about it, the more we live the more we get closer to our last day; so why spend that time worrying about something inevitable? Out of context it sounds incredibly morbid and sad - you can even imagine how many unsolicited comments I got on my tattoo because of that - but a further interpretation I give to it, is that although it happens to feel sad or even a little bit dead inside during our life, it is normal, we shouldn't obsess over the negativity we face but instead, we should accept it as part of it, and learn from it.
I'm aware it may sound like a quite far-fetched interpretation, but I still love this quote so much and it definitely helped me get through some rough patches before.
4. Who makes you giggle like a giggle monster?
My boyfriend, definitely. We have the same sense of humor so it really doesn't take much to crack each other up whenever we're together. But also my pets, they're just so silly and fun to be around.
5. What is something about society that bugs you that you wish didn’t?
The way the "perfect woman" is perceived. I don't believe in *pardon my french* such bullshit, but I must admit that - probably like most girls - I've found myself looking in the mirror and only being able to pick out my worst features and obsessing over it.
That's totally normal to have an ideal of beauty, but as the word imply, it is not supposed to be actual.
6. What is one of your favorite things to do on the weekends?
Is nothing a thing? I like lazy weekend, yeah, I'm guilty of that. If I can spend the weekend with my boyfriend, yummy food, and a couple movies, I'd take that!
7. What is something you’re really proud of that you’ve done?
Mmh, that's a tough one! I never won a medal or a ribbon, I don't really excel in my studies, so.. I'd say I'm proud of the fact despite everything, I still got quite a good head on my shoulders, and that I've been able to stay more positive for a while now.
8. What is one of your favorite memories with a friend?
I don't know why this popped in my mind right now, but when I was like 6 or 7, I was at my best friend house and we had the brilliant idea of cramming dozens of tennis balls in a corridor of his house, and then launch ourselves on it with one of those kid's surf boards made of polystyrene - thinking we would have rolled like pros. Needless to say we ended up face first on the tennis balls and it wasn't pleasant, but it still make me laugh to this day.
9. What advice would you give to someone who needs a boost in confidence?
Is a bit cliché, isn't it? But still I do believe it's true. If you push yourself sometimes, "fake it until you make it" if you need to, eventually you'll get better at it.
10. Lastly, how do you plan on investing in self-love?
The picture I made, the one at the beginning of this post, sums it up quite well!
Thanks for reading, and feel free to share your thoughts on the topic if you'd like!